They’ve worked at mastering their weaknesses and harnessing their strengths and they’ve overcome whatever challenges they’ve faced in life. Perhaps it was a necessity in the empowerment of man, and something that self-improvement-seeking men, especially in dating, needed to hear.Maybe it gave men a certain belief and entitlement that they never had before; so for that, I can forgive many guys for believing this. Not paying for a woman want to take out says one thing to a woman, “This guy is cheap!
It takes real bravery to turn away from the dating advice that tells us to be different, better, and shinier and instead rely on the worth and beauty of our own authenticity. I’ve witnessed this many times, with clients, friends, and in my own life. If we try to be someone other than who we are, we’ll find people who are looking for someone who .Worse, others sense the insecurity that underlies this approach.In my decades of work as a psychotherapist, I’ve heard so many clients report that they feel like the walking wounded after spending years trying to play these games.When we try to become more attractive instead of becoming more skilled at being authentic, we’re bound to feel off-balance. The warmth, clarity, and sense of humanity that come with self-acceptance just can’t be faked.